cour•age [noun] - the ability to do something that frightens one
#PSA It’s okay to be imperfect.
It’s okay to struggle.
Breathe that in for a moment.
Really, take it in.
For so many years I worked so hard trying to perfect my body and my exterior because I believed if I always APPEARED perfect, no one would ever have to know how flawed I am. How imperfect I am. How much I struggle every day.
And now that I’m in a career where I serve people, I coach people, and I help people make changes, I struggle with perfectionism in a different way.
That inner critic (I call it a Gremlin) says, “who the hell are YOU to help people? To preach self love? If they only knew how flawed you are... how much YOU still struggle...”
But strength isn’t about being perfect or appearing perfect.
True strength and courage is being flawed, being scared as hell at times, and moving forward powerfully, flaws and all.
I believe that in this day and age so many people struggle with anxiety, depression and feeling SO ALONE because social media shows us how PERFECT everyone else is. We see their "highlight reel,” and then we turn back to the behind-the-scenes of our own lives and think about how much we suck.
We believe we must be the ONLY ONE struggling…
We convince ourselves we’re a special kind of imperfect, a special kind of unworthy... and that surely no one else must struggle like this.
I’m here today to tell you that is just not true.
Would you ever guess that some days I feel like I suck at literally everything?
That some days I feel like I’m a fraud, a failure, a drain to everyone around me, a bad wife, a bad daughter, a bad business owner... and just generally unworthy of anything good?
I’m willing to bet you wouldn’t guess that, because every day prior to today, I’ve been too afraid to say this publicly. To say I struggle. A lot. Lord only knows how much. ✋🏻
And before today, part of me feared if I let people know about my struggles, my flaws, my imperfections, then I wouldn’t be able to provide as much value. Now I realize it’s quite the opposite.
For me to sit here and tell you otherwise, or for me to let you believe you are the only one who struggles, OR for me to make you believe that a day will come when you DON’T struggle anymore, and things are magical rainbows and unicorns 24/7, well, that would be a lie, and a giant disservice to you.
It’s more likely that you will always struggle with something. I don’t tell you this to be negative, I tell you this to be REAL… because we are human beings, and it’s our nature to be flawed and imperfect.
They say, “every level there’s a new devil,” and boy, can I attest to that. I’m a personal growth junkie and I’ve come to realize the growing pains never end. The lessons never stop. The work is never finished. But I press on because it’s SO worth it.
I am extremely proactive about things like self love, self care, nourishing my body, moving my body, prayer, and personal growth because I know these things HELP SO MUCH.
And while the inner critic (inner Gremlin) is always lingering, there are those days when I am blessed enough to experience GRACE. When God reminds me that actually I AM worthy.
And those days I have even more confidence in the the knowing that people are not inspired by perfect hair, or toned abdominal muscles. Sure, it gets attention, but then what?
Let’s be real, no one ever served the world by being pretty, skinny, or ripped. Sorry, not sorry.
People are moved by honesty, authenticity, and TRUTH.
People are inspired by courage, TRUE courage, and the great power that lies in the message of, “hey, me too. Same. I struggle too." 🙋🏻💓
So if you ever wake up feeling like hot garbage, I hope for one split second you don’t think you’re the only one who has days like that.
I’m there with you, hearing my inner Gremlin tell me how much I suck, but putting one foot in front of the other anyway. Because I have a purpose bigger than me. And the belief in my purpose is what pushes me through when I’m terrified, when I feel like giving up and giving in, when I would prefer to hide out under the covers with a pint of Ben & Jerry’s, or numb out with a bottle of rosé all to myself.
I don’t put myself on blast and expose my flaws for the LIKES or for attention.
And I certainly don’t do it because it feels good… because honestly it feels scary AF when I go to hit “post” or “publish” on a super raw, honest, vulnerable post.
The reason I stand before you and divulge my imperfections and struggles is so that you never, ever have to stand alone in yours. We’re in this together.
The reason I created this brand was to spread a message of positivity, and to help you TRULY live your best life, and become your best self. I really mean that, and if you resonate with this post I’d love nothing more than to hear from you.
I am here with you, fighting the good fight against negativity, and those damn Gremlins, telling you to love yourself THAT much harder on the days when you feel the worst. That’s when we need it the most.
You can do it, sister.
If I can, then I promise you, you can too.