Things I Would Tell My 20-Year Old Self...

                          20-Year Old Me

                          20-Year Old Me

                                   31-Year Old Me

                                   31-Year Old Me

I am 31 years old and can honestly say I LOVE being 30-something. 

When I was turning 30 last year I told my friends I was hoping to leave a lot of my insecurities and self-doubt behind as I entered a new decade... and I really feel like I've embodied that.

Layer by layer I'm learning more about myself, and letting go of the need to be perfect.  I'm also letting go of the need to be liked, or the need for validation from anyone or anything outside of myself.  Day by day I'm getting more comfortable in my skin, and becoming more and more MYSELF.

My 20's were filled with a lot of heartache, disappointment, mistakes and self-loathing.  But I don't regret any of it, because that was my journey.  Those were the lessons I needed then to become who I am today.

But... if I could speak to my 20-year old self I could probably fill a book with advice I would give her.  Here is some of it:

  • Don’t waste your precious life being hung up on body insecurities.  It's just not worth it.
  • Guys who don’t respect and appreciate you are not worth your time.  Not one second of it.
  • Take care of your skin! Tanning is a no-no, and it’s never too early to start using an eye cream.
  • Trust your intuition. If something makes you feel uneasy there is a reason behind it.  At the same time if something makes you feel uncomfortable, it's probably an opportunity to step into something bigger and GROW. Fear and excitement are two sides of the same coin.
  • You won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, and that’s okay. Just remember: there are people out there who don’t like guacamole!!
  • You’ll never have to be something you’re not, or fake it for the one that God sends.  He's out there, and worth the wait. ;-)
  • Harsh, thin, dark eyebrows are not your friend. Just don’t, okay?
  • "Hot" is not the compliment you need to chase after.  You have so much more to offer the world than just a hot body.
  • Focus on WHAT you want and WHERE you want to go. Let go of the need to control the HOW.
  • You’re going to have to kiss a lot of frogs (and cowards) before you meet your prince. Keep it moving and never settle.
  • Eat the damn cookie.  
  • Don’t text and drive.
  • Don't take everything so seriously.  
  • His plan is greater than yours. Keep the faith, always.
  • It gets better. I promise. So much better. :-)